Raise your hand if you’re 23 and have never been in a serious relationship. *raises hand* Nobody gets why it’s like that for me. They look at me and say “Oh you’re not awful looking, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to find someone.” But, finding a fulfilling relationship is about more than looks. I don’t want to ever feel like I’m wasting my time. Through witnessing most of the relationships around me, it seems like coupling up is a lot more stress than I want to deal with right now.
Does he really like me? Will he ever make me his girlfriend? Is he cheating on me? If he had the chance to get with that gorgeous girl doing yoga in the park would he take it? Does he think that my friend’s prettier than me? …Too many questions that I’m scared to know the answer to.
I may be a strange girl for saying this but I am voluntarily choosing to not look for that “half that’s supposed to make me whole” right now. Not only do I have shit to do, a career to establish and lots of Netflix to watch, but, I feel good on my own. My one real experience “dating” someone was in college and dude was an effing jerk. My heart is set on never having to go through something as complicated and as annoying as that again. I know my worth and I feel like it’s important that we all do!
I would tell anyone that if you’re not in the position where you want to selflessly give to another human being then PLEASE stay single. It’s okay to be a little selfish when you’re young, just don’t drag anyone into your selfishness with you. They likely don’t deserve it.