Forgiveness.

Why do we struggle with forgiving those who have hurt us?

For me, it’s an issue of pride. *whispers* I’m a hopeful work in progress 🙂

Your turn!

What in you gets hurt so easily? Is it something that you need to work on?

We need to stop trying to judge and fix each other when we have so much in ourselves that needs to be healed.

God knew how much we would struggle with forgiveness. He talks about the importance of it all the time. He even goes as far as to say that if you don’t forgive others then He will not forgive you all of your sins. (Matthew 6:15) YEESH.That’s how much He wants us to keep the door of unforgiveness closed. That pesky little door. So easy to open, but so hard to shut.

Let’s try not to open it at all!

“But I’m hurt. They hurt my feelings. They always hurt my feelings. I’ve forgiven them and they do the same thing to me over and over again.”

Look babe. I’m sorry that your feelings were hurt. Bur try to recognize that hurt people hurt people. Why don’t you try taking your hurt feelings and turn them into a constructive conversation with the other person. They might not know what they’re doing! Address the person, not as the superior one (because I guarantee that you’re not perfect) but as the one who genuinely wants to see healing in the person who hurt you.

If you recognize that something’s wrong, then take that revelation and pass it on. You never know who needs to hear it.

Give forgiveness freely because I’m sure that, at some point, you’re going to want to be given it freely.

Song suggestion: “Mercy” by Amanda Cook (Bethel Music)

You are light.

We were all created to be the light of the world and whenever light stands next to dark, darkness always dissipates. Always. This is more than science, it’s biblical truth!

“The light shines in the darkness and the darkness has not overcome it.” (John 1:5)

If you ever feel like your circumstances or emotions are too much for you to handle, don’t despair! You were created to be an over comer! Keep that knowledge with you and hold it close to your heart. Use it like a weapon against the hard times.

Sometimes, we choose to focus on the negative when we should be focusing on the positive. Try making a list of positives in your life vs negatives in your life…I guarantee the positives will outshine the negatives! And if you think they don’t, then SHIFT YOUR FOCUS! Try pretending the negatives don’t exist for a few moments…how would your life be different? Figure that out, and then try LIVING the next few days as if those negatives don’t exist.

You’re strong. You were created to be strong. Don’t let anything get you down. Take your authority and attack every dark thing that’s trying to come for you.

Smile! Go be bright! And go encourage others to be bright too!

Song suggestion: When the Crazy Kicks in by Francesca Battistelli

A Purpose

Hi Blog,

Long time, no talk. I can’t believe my last post was in June 2015…yikes. Am I consistent or what? And LOL, these previous blog posts though!? Who knew that I could be so dramatic?

(I did.)

A lot’s happened in a year’s time. First off, I am NO LONGER slanging biscuits for the man, WOO. Always remember to be kind to your waitresses folks because that job is not easy. Right now, I’m working at a pretty cool company, and overall, it’s been an awesome experience for me! I’m thankful, but my job journey’s not finished yet. I feel like it’s important to be thankful for where you are, while also seeking clarity about where you should go next. My career growth has been awesome, but, it doesn’t even come close to the coolest part of my life.

I’ve been consistently seeking God for the past year and that’s the real story here. How he’s constantly changing my life is the real story here. Through him I’m becoming:

  1. More loving.
  2. More joyful.
  3. More passionate.
  4. Less fearful.
  5. Less doubtful.
  6. More secure in who I am.
  7. More patient.
  8. Light.

Please know that I am a work in progress. Whew, AM I A WORK IN PROGRESS! But, man oh man, am I progressing.

I no longer have any interest in “figuring out” this world on my own. That was hard. Taking on life’s burdens alone is hard. Let’s make it easy on ourselves.

So with all of that said,  I’m going to flip this blog a bit. I’ll still talk about the “Real World” and my journey, but my focus is definitely being shifted to detailing how God is shaping my “world” as he becomes more “real” to me.

Reader, do you have peace? REAL peace? I hope so! You deserve it because you are so loved!

Song suggestion: “Spirit Move” sung by Kalley H. of Bethel Music. All the feels.

Timing.

Perfect timing is such a crazy thing. We get certain ideas in our heads of when things are going to happen, how they’re going to happen and how happy that we’re going to be when they finally do happen. Dreams. The problem is, it gets hard to believe in your dreams when nothing you wish for ever seems to come to fruition. At the end of the day, I’m a girl of faith and I believe that HIS timing is perfect, not mine. But, as a human being with fears and wants and hopes, I’m going to take this moment to wonder exactly when the timing in my life is going to work out? What new opportunity is finally going to jazz up my life? And how happy am I going to be when all that I’ve been hoping for finally comes?

Interviews, Interviews…

Oh man. Interviews are such an experience. There’s a nervousness to knowing that you have one, but there’s a sadness to knowing that you don’t. I’ll take nervous over sad any day. I had my first group interview today, so I had no idea what to expect at all. Though, the thought of actually having to see your competition face to face, wasn’t something that sounded nice to me at all, and I wasn’t wrong. The other candidates were great people and it was amazing to hear about the variety of backgrounds in the room, but that kind of makes it worse right? Like, oh man, I like these people, the hiring managers probably will too! Haha. I definitely feel like I allowed myself to get overshadowed in not only the group atmosphere, but also in how fast paced everything was. That’s completely on me.

So, for my next interview, I definitely want to remember to…

1. Be Confident. These are people just like you. Yeah, they’re responsible for making a big decision but that’s no reason to wear your nerves on your sleeve.

2. Be Vocal. Ask the questions that you want to ask and say what you want to say (as long as it’s relevant). Since I was in a group I definitely allowed myself to be bulldozed over and that’s no bueno. I didn’t take charge enough and I didn’t ask the questions that I wanted to ask. You have opinions, share them!

3. Really do your research. I did a ton of research, but I feel like I could’ve prepared even more. If you really know the role that you’re applying for then you’re going to have no problem painting a picture of how your skills and experiences connect to it. You want these people to envision you in this role, so make it easy for them!

Clearly, I’ve struggled throughout this past year with really finding my place, but I believe that a good opportunity is out there for me. I have to believe that. I have to stay positive and I have to keep chugging along. These temporary setbacks are not forever.

Let’s talk romance

Raise your hand if you’re 23 and have never been in a serious relationship. *raises hand* Nobody gets why it’s like that for me. They look at me and say “Oh you’re not awful looking, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to find someone.” But, finding a fulfilling relationship is about more than looks. I don’t want to ever feel like I’m wasting my time. Through witnessing most of the relationships around me, it seems like coupling up is a lot more stress than I want to deal with right now.

Does he really like me? Will he ever make me his girlfriend? Is he cheating on me? If he had the chance to get with that gorgeous girl doing yoga in the park would he take it? Does he think that my friend’s prettier than me? …Too many questions that I’m scared to know the answer to.

I may be a strange girl for saying this but I am voluntarily choosing to not look for that “half that’s supposed to make me whole” right now. Not only do I have shit to do, a career to establish and lots of Netflix to watch, but, I feel good on my own. My one real experience “dating” someone was in college and dude was an effing jerk. My heart is set on never having to go through something as complicated and as annoying as that again. I know my worth and I feel like it’s important that we all do!

I would tell anyone that if you’re not in the position where you want to selflessly give to another human being then PLEASE stay single. It’s okay to be a little selfish when you’re young, just don’t drag anyone into your selfishness with you. They likely don’t deserve it.

Do I need to grow up?

Grow up. That’s what my mom told me to do today. She wanted to talk about the whole job hunting situation and I told her that I didn’t want to talk about it. EXCUSE me that I don’t want to think about it every minute of the day. I already think about it all the time. I think about it every time that I apply for a job. I think about it every time that I attempt to network. I think about it every time that I get a rejection email. And I especially think about it every time that I don’t get an email at all. She just wants to help. I know that. But sometimes, it’s just better for the soul to not talk about things because, if I’m not talking about it then maybe… just maybe… I won’t think about it for a little while.